Today’s thought – positivity vs. hope.

“We all get so tired of wearing that same tired mask of Positivity-with-a-Capital-P, putting on that cracked porcelain facade every day just so we don’t have to hear “cheer up” or anything along those lines. When I was deep in depression a few months ago, acquaintances giving me those platitudes wasn’t what kept me from curling up in my bed and disappearing in on myself, it was the HOPE that one day the light would shine again.” I posted this as part of a comment on Felicia’s meaningful The Bullshit “Be Positive” vs. the Realistic “Be Hopeful” Narrative post today. It’s something to think about – we see these feel-good, made-for-Pinterest phrases about “staying positive” and “looking on the bright side” and “being cheerful” all the time. We’re told as people that we need to smile and be chirpy and peppy constantly. But what if you can’t be? What if […]

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A Facebook break, and some long-awaited lessons.

For the majority of the past week, I did my best to avoid Facebook. I did find myself opening the site a couple of times over the course of the week – a few times for work and even opening the app on my phone out of habit. Hiding the icon helped prevent that, though. Most of my posts to Instagram automatically went to Facebook, but other than that, I didn’t post or “like” anything. Honestly? It was wonderful. I feel less stressed, less annoyed, and I was very glad I missed most of the Katrina anniversary sadness and nostalgia. I also felt more productive at work. The lesson I am taking from this is that I don’t NEED to be constantly connected to everyone, online, all day. It’s good to get together with someone and actually catch up. As wonderful as it is that we have this great big […]

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Love thyself – 25 days of dresses.

If you would have told me 15 years ago that I would have had over 10 dresses in my closet by the time I was 40, I would have laughed at you. I would have said that nothing could ever part me from my bootcut jeans and tees. Hell, even back in 2007, I would have chuckled and said, “Nah.” I currently have 11 dresses in my closet. Actually, I have 12 dresses, but I’m wearing one today to my friend Katie’s birthday party/crawfish boil/BBQ. (Sidenote: I love spring in Louisiana because I get to eat CRAWFISH. If you haven’t been to a crawfish boil, you are missing something in your life and I feel sad for you.) I can’t put my finger on when I went from NO DRESSES to ALL THE DRESSES. Maybe it was when I discovered shapewear with shorts. I used to avoid dresses because my […]

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Love thyself, pt. 1 – Move thyself.

OH EM GEE you should totally work out, it helps with stress and helps you feel better and lose weight and blah blah blah If any of you know me in person, you know I HATE cardio workouts. I feel like my entire body is jiggling in unattractive ways. Like running…I don’t care how long I go, I never hit that “runners high” that I always hear about. I’m too concerned about my belly and boobs and thighs flopping all over the place. I see these lithe runners, ponytails bopping up and down, smiles on their faces with that “glowing healthy sweat” and I’m like HOW THE HELL DO YOU DO THAT. I chalk it up to good genes. I do love working out with weights. I just want to go in a gym and make my way through the weight lifting machines and then go home. I used to […]

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Love Thyself.

Things have been going well lately. So why am I stressed, anxious, and all-around frustrated with everything? I sat in the doctor’s office the other day texting my good friend C – I was stressing out because I knew he was going to fuss at me about my weight, and I needed someone to keep me calm. She asked me why I was so anxious about everything, and when I thought about it, I realized I didn’t know. I talked to Doug about it when I got home, and he asked me the same question. I had the same response. I DON’T KNOW. There is nothing in my life that should be stressing me out right now. My job is fantastic, my diabetes is under control, our finances are looking up, we have food and a roof over our heads, family that loves us, and friends beyond measure. So again – […]

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